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Today, I have the pleasure of hosting Shailaja Vishwanath on my blog. I first met her through her blogs. She shares great fiction at The Moving Quill and musings on life and parenting at the Diary of a Doting mom. She is warm, friendly, intelligent and affectionate, and I instantly hit it off with her. She is just the same, even naughtier in person. Yes, we still have to do that full-fledged meetup, Shy. She is methodical, organized, a wonderful writer and a lovely person. Glad to have her here in my space today. Over to Shailaja…

5 ways parenting is like blogging

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They say parenting doesn’t come with a manual and that you’re constantly learning on the job. Now, blogging DOES come with manuals-sometimes way too many of them, if you ask me, but what I love about both of them is that you can always learn, are always taken by surprise and come out of it wiser and happier.

It’s a Team Effort:

Make no mistake about this one. Those days when you are sleep-deprived after spending 10 hours rocking a colicky baby to sleep, you are more than grateful when your spouse or significant other takes over the wailing kid, smiles and says ‘You’ve done enough. Go rest now.’ You look at them with something akin to love, but it’s probably sheer gratitude that you can now catch that much-needed nap.

Blogging doesn’t work on a very different principle. After slaving for an hour, crafting that blog post to perfection, checking for typos, adding the hash tags and maybe sharing it on social media, we are overwhelmed with gratitude when people come over, pat you and say, ‘I know how much time you’ve put into this post. Good job.’

Good cop and Bad cop:

Ever noticed how when the kid messes up, one parent plays the disciplinarian and the other soothes and comforts? At home, we typically take turns doing this, because, in our book, children are better off learning from their mistakes at home first. I must admit though, I seem to play the bad cop more often; probably that’s something in my mental make-up.

When you blog, ideally, you should have a couple of close friends who will look over your post and say two things: what you want to hear and what you need to hear. We need the good cop to boost us, motivate us to write more and continue to blog. The bad cop is equally relevant, because it is that critique that will help push us towards becoming a better blogger.

You’ll make mistakes:

Of course!

You are going to use the wrong-sized diaper, that terrible lotion which will cause a rash, those foods which will trigger an allergic reaction and you’ll panic every single time.

Similarly, as a blogger, you will goof up initially by not attributing quotes or pictures, or drop links when you aren’t supposed to, directly tweet to people to read your posts or completely screw up on font size, background colour or template of your blog.

But, the good news? You’ll learn. You’ll come out of those mistakes and build upon them, striving to be a better parent or better blogger. Even better, you’ll understand it’s not the end of the world and these things happen for a reason.

You’ll learn from those who’ve been there:

Advice is rarely taken well, especially when most of us suffer from the ‘I knew that already’ syndrome. Try telling people that there’s an alternative way to doing something and you’ll find them up in arms, defending their stance.

But, on the rare occasions that they are receptive, you will find that people can take suggestions and even apply it to their situations. You will find yourself opening up to learn things from other parents/ bloggers.

A seasoned mom will sympathise and suggest that you don’t need to wrap your baby up every time there is a nip in the air. A veteran dad will smile and show you how to rock the whole teenage phase, when the child seems to defy everything you say.

Likewise, when you want to move your blog to a custom domain or need help with how to add alt tag to your images, you’ll find helpful souls who will go out of their way to walk you through the nitty-gritty of the process.

At the end of it, you’ll notice a growing sense of kinship with these people who share their wisdom with you.

You’ll let go:

This must be the hardest lesson of all, but probably the most valuable.

We have this incredible attachment to our creations, whether they are our kids or our blogs. We feel a certain sense of quiet pride when we see them take shape, morph into something with minds of their own, grow in stature and maturity and finally evolve into forms of expression that can hold their own in reality.

It’s tempting to hold on, take credit for those wonderful outcomes and continue to cling to your idea of what was great about them at first. But, letting go, now there is something that can truly help you grow- as a parent and as a blogger.

We stop worrying about what people will think or say, stats don’t matter anymore and the child/blog is a brand in its own right. All they need from us is a gentle nudge every now and then.

So, those are just five ways parenting is exactly like blogging. It’s hard, it’s exhausting and it’s glorious but they are the two most fulfilling things in my life today.

How about you?

In what other way is blogging like parenting?

Do share your thoughts in the comments here.

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46 Thoughts on “5 ways Parenting is exactly like Blogging

  1. That is a very interesting perspective, though I have never looked at it like that …

    Good to meet you here on Rachna’s blog 🙂
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  2. That’s a very nice comparison! and yes…true!
    Loved that last point…..
    We need to stop worrying about the stats and what others keep saying…they are our kids and no matter what! The only thing that matters in the end is that.

    We need to let go! All they need from us is a gentle nudge every now and then. 🙂
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  3. Why haven’t I ever looked at it that way! This is so true! Godmother’s wisdom is infallible!! 🙂
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  4. Aha! You are spot on! Though never thought of comparing the two, but after reading this post, yes, blogging and parenting are so very similar! Good to see you here, Shailaja 🙂
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  5. So So True GodMa. Hadn’t thought about it, but now when I look back, yes I see so many similarities between S and the blog.
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  6. Thank you so much for giving me this opportunity, Rachna! I am quite overwhelmed by your introduction of me and I don’t think I really deserve all those words of praise, but I will accept them with gratitude 🙂 For me, blogging has been a wonderful way of networking with incredible writers and fabulous people. This, today, is really an honour, being able to write on your blog which always has such discerning readers.

    Thank you once again, my dear 🙂
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    • You’re very welcome, Shailaja. It’s been a pleasure to have you here. Of course, you deserve every word of it. 🙂

      Blogging is all that to me too, a wonderful way to meet and discover like-minded, wonderful people. Thank you so much for this post. I could never have imagined this topic. Two of my favorite subjects and how well you interconnected them. Really quite ingenious!
      Rachna recently posted…5 ways Parenting is exactly like BloggingMy Profile

  7. That is a good comparison. Very correct in so many ways.
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  8. Though I am a parent, never correlated both. But your post made me introspect. Isn’t it true how much we pamper, fuss, cajole and neglect our blog like we do to our kids as well.

  9. Some really sharp similarities between the two, Shailaja 🙂
    Enjoyed reading it.
    And thank you Rachna, for hosting one of my favourite writers.
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  10. Hi, Shailaja. A good comparison with insightful points. Enjoyed reading. Any creation is just like our baby. It needs proper care, nourishment & time. Thanks Rachna for sharing this interesting post with Shailaja. 🙂
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  11. Excellent comparison, Shailaja!! The last point, Letting Go, really resonates with me!! I’m letting go of counting how many comments and visits my bog gets and I’m also letting go of my two boys to figure things and make their own mistakes and enjoy life!!
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  12. Ha ha ha – you might have something there Shailaja. Maybe that’s why the two were born almost together for me – the kids and the blog. The mom-to-mom bond is as strong as the blogger-to-blogger bond. And then there’s another similarity – the overwhelming desire to share – I couldn’t stop sharing anecdotes about the twins, just as much as I enjoy sharing my blog posts.
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  13. Very true, Shailaja. Parenting is like Blogging! 🙂
    Parenting & Blogging both give us a sense of happiness & fulfillment.
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  14. An interesting comparison, Shailaja. I can’t speak about parenting but yes about blogging I would definitely say this much — the sooner we can let go of our over-the-top, egoistic attachments to our blogs or any of our ‘creations’ the happier we will be. Though of course it is much easier said than done! I would imagine it is even harder for parents to let go!
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  15. Haha…great analogy Shailaja…cleverly done. Not a parent but could totally see the relationship. 🙂
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  16. Wonderful post! I am not a parent but in theory – I get it 🙂 Good to see you here Shailaja! As always wonderful writing 🙂
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  17. Very true, Shailaja. Blogging and Parenting are similar in many ways. The joy, the frustration, the restlessness, all of them! 🙂
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  18. I am not yet a parent but can totally relate..Very well written post..

    LBD
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  20. A very interesting comparison Shailja ! Never thought to think like that.. and just like somebody said we fret and fuss over it just like a kid. And it also frustrates us at times 🙂
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  21. Fun blog! How about talking in vain – some blogs are my heart outpoured in words yet nobody reads/comments. Just as your kids – talk all you want, they hear you, but still they don’t listen 😉
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