Life, it hits you just when everything seems perfect;
Challenges – what are they — Mistakes or decisions?
How do you stay afloat and do the right thing?
Why does the right thing feel like a delusion?
What has to be done has been done
Life goes on albeit with regret
Sometimes the right way is just so wrong!
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So true! At times right is slightly wrong and wrong is slightly right..Maybe that i why we are growing more and more comfortable with grays.
Agree Akansha! Some decisions are very painful but have to be taken. They can seem morally wrong but practically right.
Oh ho ho! This comes as such a coincidence. I was just talking about the same thing with my close friend. That lots of times we take decisions and are questioned about it, judged by it! Well, sometimes I feel about some decisions too, but never regret. We take decisions based on the information we have then and the circumstances at that precise point in time! Well written Rachna. Is this for the writing prompt exercise that Corinne had floated?
May be the right decision, may have been the wrong, but what’s done is done! Lovely post Rachna, keep coming back to it!
And sometimes, we just keep going back and judging our own decisions, don’t we? No, I didn’t write it as a prompt. Just some thoughts that were bothering me and I scribbled them. Don’t know if they make any sense. Some decisions make you feel bad either way. How terrible is that!
Yes, sometimes the right way is just so wrong but it also shows how strong you are. But why this big cloud of sadness in this post?
Aptly put, Jas! I had to take a tough call on something. I did what I thought was right though in some ways it was very wrong. It made me feel very very sad.
Hmmm, is there a perfect life?
What is right for u might be wrong for others. It is always complicated
You are right, Bhagyashree. And that is why sometimes we don’t seek help because the choice is ours to make,
The truth my dear is, there are no absolute truths 🙂
Absolutely true, my lady :).
Choices – that’s what life is all about…making them and living with the consequences. Isn’t that what makes it interesting? 🙂
Very true, Corinne! We live with the consequences, sometimes the guilt too.
Hey..I didn’t get notification for this one. Just letting you know. 🙂 Btw, I’m in the phase that you spoke in the few lines…Delusive about the right thing!! 🙁
I think feedburner notification is coming a day late these days. Thanks for letting me know. I understand. I think we all go through these dilemmas.
Such is life.These are facts of life..Hence,maintain a positive approach,dream big and move on.I personally believe that it’s all pre destined
Thank you Chowlaji! You are absolutely right. A person close to me said the same thing — it is pre-destined. It was not meant to be.
Thanks.Great men think alike
Hi Rachna,
Well, as they say, the truth is not only stranger but vastly more interesting than fiction. There is no such thing as perfection, it exists only on paper as an ideal case scenario.
Maybe you should check out my list of 10 things which one should stop doing.
A post with a good message attached to it.
Regards
Jay
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Thank you Jay. Truth is indeed stranger than fiction :). I will check out your post. Thanks for your comment.
The right way is not wrong, but only appears wrong to the onlookers. Our conscience and our mind instructed us to act that way and so it has to be right. And like Jas has pointed out, it only shows one is strong, not wrong! What prompted this post? Was it JLT?
I have been in tough situations where what seemed right is wrong in some ways and the other choice is just too hard to make. Finally one ends up with a bad feeling about the decision as well as guilt too. Just one of those introspections. Always makes me realize that life has so many more grays.
Ahh…the mysteries of life. Only time can tell.
Sometimes time gives the healing touch or the right fading of memories.
So true…. I remember a quote I heard in some movie about taking hard decisions… went something like this: ”there is no right or wrong… it is about what you do or don’t do”
Completely agree Ash! One has got to do what one has got to do!
Hi Rachna,
very well written. There nothing called absolute perfection in life. And things are seldom divided into right or wrong. More than often we have to chose between wrong and lesser wrong.
True, agree to choose between wrong and lesser wrong sometimes. Thank you Meenakshi.
Ah, Rachna, you have made me think. For I face choices right now – in fact I have made mine, and sit nibblng my nails wondering if I have made the right ones. I cling to Susan Jeffries’ Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway: she says it’s not about right and wrong, rather about different flavours. Let us hope this is true.
Let us hope so too, Kate :).
Understand you completely. Time heals.
Thank you Kavita! Hugs for being the special person that you are to me!
Whatever the situation is, if it’s reversible – don’t sweat it, really, we make decisions with the knowledge of today, tomorrow we will know a bit more and it could well seem that the yesterday decision was not perfect – and if so, fix it. If the decision you have to make is irreversible – then what’s the point of regretting it, as long as you put the best of intentions in the solution you applied. Looking back … so tempting, yet so pointless if you gonna cry over spilled milk. Strength and… forward!
Sometimes they are not because you don’t want them to reverse. You commit mistakes and then want to put them behind and move on. I know there is no point in regretting, but sometimes you keep going back there and wondering! Move forward — I know :).
Rachna,
I wonder if any one has perfect life. We all go through a lot and make our share of right or wrong choices / decisions. Only way to have peace of mind is to do what conscience permits.
Take care
I know Jack! Thanks!
The right remains right! The judgemental mind only makes the differentiation based on circumstances!
hmmm True! But sometimes, there is no single right. There are loads of grays to choose from.
I would call this perfect and normal. Thats life; and you go with the flow. Good one Rachna
Thank you Insignia :).
Hmmm…I never knew there is something called as right way-:) an avid wrong wayer… but what the heck, at least I am on some way -:) Watch so many just sitting, and sitting and sitting…
hehe a good way of looking at things, Bhavana! At least a decision was made — right or wrong. It is better than not doing any thing :).
There is no such thing as perfect — it is but an illusion. 🙂 I agree though…when things seem smooth sailing, stuff happens to rock the boat. I guess though it is a way of seeing how resilient we are and just how quickly we can bounce back from a setback. And it makes us appreciate the smooth times a lot more!! As for decisions, I have blogged about it a few times — if only we knew the outcome before we made it! But then again, it takes away the mystery and the learning….
Agree to everything you say PB! It is all about learning and experience and the mystery too.
🙂 Everything okay? So glad there are choices, right? Hugs.
Everything good, Vidya! Thank you so much!
Rt now, I am in the midst of making some important decisions and all of it seemed to be written for me , me and only me ha ha 🙂
hehe Wish you luck with the decision making, Jaish!
at times we also believe what is true is actually false and vice verse .. life is like a box of chocolates ..
also ma’am don’t you think right or wrong is a very subjective term .. what may be right to you may not be right for me…
Thank you Rahul! You are right of course.
Guess, nothing matters in the end analysis. What seemed right now, may look wrong 3 months down the line and again right one year down the line and once again wrong 5 years down the line. They say right or wrong, it is good to decide one way or the other. Sometimes it pays to not decide and let things take their course as well
Yes, you are right. Decisions that are right may feel wrong later. Complicated surely. And sometimes the choices have to be made no matter how tough.
absolutely right that choices are often clear as right or wrong! We just have to make the best out of what we’re given!
Agree Roshni!
Life is so difficult and becomes all the more when what we think is right turns out to be wrong. Wish the line between the two is more pronounced.
Totally, Saru! Things are not always black and white and hence decision making is even tougher.
i go with The Fool.nothing matters in the end analysis. how u doing rachna?wishes
Thank you so much, Ramesh. I am fine. Hope you are well too.
Whatever those decisions are, Rachana, you write with an honest heart and that is worth appreciating.
Thank you so much, Kayem!
rightly pointed out . . following what your heart says is the best way to be happy . .chances are more that what proves right for us seems wrong in others eyes . . well , your post has the solution to that 🙂
Thank you Maliny :).
Hi Rachna,Life is a challenge.,like a coin, ‘heads or tail.’We take a desicion, whether right or wrong, it cannot be undone I can very well understand your feelings.You have expressed your thoughts excellently,They seem to come out from the very core of your heart.
Thank you so much, Usha! I penned this at a vulnerable moment. Was scared to publish it but did anyway. Thanks for connecting with it.
We are right or wrong at the moment based on our present circumstances. Days or weeks or years later you might have an entirely different view.
Agree Amit! Sometimes the decision affects your future but you have to take it now. You don’t know how it would have actually panned out, but that is the risk you have to take.