There is something so wonderful about having brothers and sisters. I was lucky to have a younger brother and elder sister.
She was always this anchor, my brother and I, turned to in times of need. In school, she helped us fend off bullies. At home, she protected us from mom and dad’s anger. She got scolded when we did something wrong, being the elder one. She was and will always be my emotional support. I was so influenced by her that even my educational choices reflected her decisions. I followed her in graduating in Chemistry and doing MBA! My brother, in fact, did his MBA as well :). I know, I can turn to her without any skepticism to always offer what is best for me.
My younger brother, we are 2.5 years apart, was the one with whom I fought the maximum. He has always been a sensitive person who hides this streak pretty well. Like all of us in the family, he is strong-willed, chatterbox and opinionated :). He has been a wonderful younger brother.
Luckily, the three of us share a close bond. More than the fun parts, it was the tough times; we pulled through because of each other’s support. When my mom passed away, we stood by each other and threw in our emotional support to protect our dad. I feel really blessed to have them in my life.
Now, I see the same great camaraderie being shared by my sons, Gautam and Siddharth. They quarrel like cats and dogs, but they can’t do without each other. They are so protective of each other, it’s amazing. The other day, Gautam was upset with his school teacher and did not wish to go to school. He was howling away. Siddharth, who studies in the same school, went to drop him to his class. He “advised” Gautam’s teacher not to be harsh with him and to avoid scolding him:). And, voila, Gautam was all cheerful when he came home. Sid always looks out for him at school. And, I know for sure, that Gautam adapted so well to school life largely because “big brother” studied in the same school. There are so many such small incidents; I see everyday.
It reinforces my belief that this is the greatest gift; we as parents can give our kids — their own siblings!
“Sid always looks out for him at school.”
And I’m of the opinion that this is the stuff from which high character is made.
That’s so sweet, Bart! I am of the same opinion.
How true..my experience is exactly the same. My bonding with my brother and now my both sons are also the same. I think gender also does not matter when it comes to bonding of siblings 🙂
it is not fight ya..sibling clashes r more out of affection..i think the more that v fight during childhood the more affectionate v get..dunno..just feel so..good post ya R..cheers
@manika Yes, bonding is definitely not dependent on gender.
@R.Ramesh Yes, they are not serious fights, but they seemed so when we were younger :). Definitely, it is a manifestation of affection.
Actually its not fight..its a bonding ritual..misinterpreted by the public
@Sorcerer I see 🙂
Hello Rachna, was at Cheryl’s blog about to check out noticed a lovely lady in designer sunglasses…
and as admiring pretty ladies among one of my hobbies, I slammed my brakes and did a U turn and busybody here.
Nice blog and you got great looking kids. No need to ask where they get their good looks from, ahemmmm.
Enjoyed reading your profile and this posting.
Love your eloquence.
You have a nice day, and keep a song in your heart, best regards, Lee.
@Uncle Lee Thank you so much for dropping by. You are so generous with your compliments. Thanks again for your kind words!
u made me nostalgic…..
According to me friends are good but siblings being friends are even more good:)
@Bhagyashree It’s good that you felt nostalgic. I hope that it made you remember some good memories. You are right, having siblings or parents as friends is a deadly combination.
hi Rachna..first time on your blog ..and loved ur posts….this post brought myself into the flashback, where I and my elder bro…used to play fight like anythign..he was my best buddy and best enemy ..bth..hihihi….
i have a a 2.5 yrs old son and thru ur post i felt that he will be so alone without a bro/sis////thnx for ur post it can help me in making my future decisions…..do drop in my blog too:
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Yes, please rethink about your child. I faced this same dilemma when Siddharth was 3ish. I feel happy that he “asked” for a sibling. I had to put a break on my career. But really, now that I have Gautam, I wouldn’t want it any other way.
It gives me great pride to see them together.
thats really nice dear…and all the best for ur lovely life with ur two sons..and het btw ur pic with them is too nice….
@rohini Thanks a lot! I like the holi ki masti in this pic 🙂
Hope to see you more often here.
Thanks so much for visiting my blog and leaving your comment! I am delighted that you found me, and vice versa! This is a nice post, I have three children who really do look out for each other, no matter what. My oldest is almost 31, the next is almost 24 and the youngest is 18. Even though they are years apart, they dote on each other and would be the first to help each other. I never worry about my youngest, a daughter, ever having to worry too much in life as her big brothers will be there for her! Your oldest son is so sweet and kind to look out after your youngest one so nicely!
@Cheryl Thank you so much. I enjoyed the happiness and energy that you exude through your blog.Blogging is a wonderful way of making new friends. Good for your daughter with two elder brothers looking out for her. Elders brothers can be so protective and fun.
I share a similar relationship, but when it comes to my single child, i make it a point to include his cousins as part of the family on day to day basis..
whats imp is friends and siblings are a good source since they would be around consistently..but i have seen siblings who hate each other too..
@wise donkey Good that you can include cousins. For us, they are just too far away that the kids gets to meet maybe once a year.
Friends are good. You are right; there are siblings who hate each other too. But, I am hoping that my upbringing will take care of that. I just wanted to say that if possible do not deprive your child of this pleasure. Rest is up to each one’s circumstances, really.