Whatsapp don'ts

Since WhatsApp has been launched, it has caught on like fire. People think that just because they have got your mobile number, it is their duty to WhatsApp you quotes, good morning, good night messages, jokes, videos and add you to groups where you don’t know anyone. All this without once finding out what your Read More →

selfie mania

If  there is one  innovation that has taken the world by storm, it is a selfie. Earlier we roamed around with our cameras mustering courage to ask a passerby to click our picture. And then later realized that either the picture was blurred or we were looking ungainly (fat!) only because of the bad angle; Read More →

indian roads

I turned my car slowly on to the road leading to the school. It was almost 5 pm and the elder son would be coming out of the gate any minute now. My thoughts were veering to all kinds of things; the younger son was droning on about his friend and an incident that happened Read More →

We all hang on to old memories. They become so precious that we re-live them through photos or material possessions. I have old handwritten letters from friends, college scrapbooks, some lovely cards, even old emails that the husband and I exchanged during our courtship. Stuff we hoard and possibly take to our graves so precious it Read More →

gratitude for life's little joys

It’s a beautiful Thursday today. One day in a week when we don’t have eggs or any non-vegetarian food as a matter of fact. Just honouring a family tradition on my husband’s side of family. And, I sit down to acknowledge all that I felt grateful for recently. Well this week was quite a rollercoaster Read More →

welcome Mondays

Rather weird, isn’t it? I mean everyone hates Mondays especially on social media. Even before Monday dawns, people start cribbing as if it were the end of the world. It has almost become fashionable to do so. After the portrayed or real indulgence of the weekend, Monday seem like a groan. For starters you have to wake up Read More →

Rachna says

16th July 2008, that day when an innocuous journal post marked the beginning of this blog that you are reading today. So yes, we celebrated her 8th birthday yesterday. Like a little girl, she has a mind of her own and gives me immense happiness and a world of distress too as times. This time around, Read More →

of jeans, food pipes and maps1

This is another edition of the life and times with the younger son. Never a dull moment when he is around. So the other day, we went shopping for jeans. He needed some and I am always game for some. So first we went to buy him jeans. Now have you noticed that the fit Read More →

letting go

I glanced at her taking her ageing looks in. No, she is not glamorous anymore, not very pretty either. Her heyday long behind her. Her wrinkled body hides a solid, reliable soul. Not once did she not come through for me. My children have grown up in her lap. The younger one came home from the hospital after Read More →

The younger son and I have a very affectionate yet exasperating relationship. He is a boy with a mind of his own. He can be very loving and caring and yet can show an extremely mean and stubborn side in a jiffy. It all depends upon the rapport you share with him and of course Read More →

travel tour organized badly Thomas Cook

Recently the elder son went to Malaysia after claiming the prize he won by winning the city round of the quiz. The contest was hosted by Thomas Cook. Now, personally I do not go for organized trips with travel agencies unless it is planned by my sister’s agency so I was curious to see the Read More →

Let go teen

Let go. Let them free. Give them wings. All phrases we toss with such casual ease sitting in our comfortable cocoons at home. Those of us who have younger kids feel that the situation is so far away that it does not even merit a thought. And for people like me with a teen in Read More →

vatican

Vatican is a tiny city-state, the smallest in the world surrounded by Rome. Of course, as a tourist, you don’t exactly feel that you are getting into a new country nor are you asked to show any documents so well interesting trivia to know. Vatican is the seat of the Catholic Church and the Pope is Read More →

teen at home 2

You know what tests your patience even more than travelling via traffic-clogged Silk Board in Bangalore – parenting a teen! 🙂 Every day is like a permanent roller coaster ride. You really don’t know when all is going right and you suddenly plunge and completely lose your breath and when you are apprehensive but the ride just nudges Read More →

rome diaries pantheon trevi fountain

You can catch up with the previous two posts Italian Diaries – Sneak peek of Rome and Rome Diaries – Colosseum and Palatine Hill before reading ahead . Continuing on our Roman adventure, we decided to do a self-guided tour of Pantheon, Trevi Fountain and Spanish Steps, all architectural delights. We got off on the same Read More →

rome street

European cities are beautiful. A fantastic public transport, friendly people and an unrushed life makes for some great tourist destinations. But Europe is on  edge after the recent terror attacks in Belgium and Paris as is apparent from the large army presence at almost all monuments, railway stations and airports. There is also a raging Read More →

gratitude

I had a beautiful lunch planned with friends. Was really looking forward to some fun times when a sudden work meeting cropped up. It crushed me to cancel our lunch outing aware that we may find it difficult to meet for the next two months, each with our own crazy schedules and kids’ holidays. So well, Read More →

Mondays, March and Children

  As mercury shoots up to obscene levels in Bangalore, I sit in well-ventilated rooms with my laptop and Coco in tow, shifting from sofa to chair, from room to room, supervising chores while continuing to keep working. Such a fun way to work, wouldn’t you say? So, this is the last Monday in a Read More →

challenges while parenting a teen

The small playground was bursting to the seams with children. Little children were sitting in the sand pit with their tiny baskets to play to their heart’s fill with sand, very comfortable with the mess and the dirt. Their mothers hung around keeping a watchful eye on them while chatting with other mothers. Some of Read More →

women and ambition

I have recently been reading ‘Lean In’ by Sheryl Sandberg at a really slow pace. Slowly because the book engrossed me it being such a stimulating read. A high-profile, successful American executive opens out her heart and shares her experiences and you realize that at the bottom of it all we are so similar. A woman in Read More →

Why keep dogs?

Well there are many reasons I can give you. Kids universally love dogs. They find them cute and they feel that a puppy is an animated stuffed toy. They love to cuddle and hug a dog till time’s end. I can’t tell you how many children come home to play with Coco. So most often, Read More →

To tell you the truth, I can hardly make out that it is Spring. On the one hand, the trees are shedding their leaves, on the other, it has suddenly become quite hot like summer. The temperature has just spiked in the past week. The only saving grace is the appearance of the beautiful cherry Read More →

  I came across Amit’s writing for the first time on his blog, earlier called Mashed Musings. He excels at humour and feminist writings. After he had his daughter, his sporadic daddy journals made for some hilarious reading. But then his blogging took a backseat as he got busy with his first book, False Ceilings. The Read More →

Valentine's Day Now and Then

Valentine’s Day is just around the corner, and the rants on social media have already begun surfacing. Since the day has begun to be celebrated in India, there have been opinions galore and controversies surrounding its celebration. I remember my first brush with it was way back in college in Bombay. In those days, we Read More →

The caregiver's trauma

There was a time when I loved her. Her lovely eyes brimming with compassion, her beautiful smile and her warm hug. I dug them. She was my support, my moral compass, my life. Not any more! Now I find it an ordeal to step into her room. Her room minimal, her bedside littered with medicines. The Read More →

jaisalmer

Have you ever looked at the sky at night? No, I am not talking about the cursory glances we city folks throw at the inky black sky. I am talking about actually staring at it and staring at it for long, observing each detail of the vast Universe. So long that the stars and the planets Read More →

poor children

Friday evenings are fun. They are the culmination of a tiring work week and generally are a precursor to a relaxed weekend. Okay, not that relaxed but at least a time to unwind, catch up with the chores, read, watch silly TV or movies and tolerate the kids waiting for Monday to come quickly. A Read More →

Jugaad is a classic Indian favorite. Loosely translated it means a quick fix or an innovative workaround to use the resources available. You may have come across ingenious tales of jugaad in your daily lives. But this jugaad in daily lives could give rise to a ‘chalta hai’ approach when some people take it too Read More →

makar sankranti kites

Makar Sankranti is celebrated all across India  on January 14th and 15th every year. It is the time when the Sun transitions into the zodiac of Capricorn. Some people say that it signals the end of winter. Growing up, I don’t remember Sankranti being celebrated in any special manner in my own home.  But then Read More →

life beckons

A 40 year old died in his sleep due to a massive cardiac arrest. No diagnosed health issues. In fact, he was a sportsman. A man who was on social media chatting till late at night, the very same night he passed away. Leaves behind a tween child and a stricken spouse. His death a Read More →

mother of sons

Saturday afternoon, I decided to do groceries with the boys. We headed to the nearby mall to buy some fresh veggies. The sons enthusiastically accompanied me. When I was picking fresh peas, how delightful they are in this season, the younger son wanted to help. So I showed him how to choose the plump bright Read More →

Rachna says 2015

There is something very comforting about statistics especially when they reiterate what you have been aspiring/working towards. Seriously, even while reading or writing articles, I focus on statistics which quantify ambiguity and somewhere stick with the user. So why am I harping on statistics now? It is year end and it is a good time to Read More →

spooked out

He screamed loudly and burst into tears much to the amazement of others! It was an inky black night. The moon had not yet made an appearance and it was chilly. The boy was seated at the dining table along with his brother intently listening to his mother narrate a  spooky tale from a time many Read More →

In 2 minutes

No this is not about Maggi. Duh! Though that was a catchy line, whoever prepared Maggi in two minutes? This is about a prompt by friend and popular daddy blogger, Sid Balachandran which struck an instant chord with me. I am a person who loves observing people. I have always liked doing it when I Read More →

Independence and what it means to me

I was watching this advertisement on telly. There was some banter between a wife and a husband. The wife says, “I used to be more independent before marriage.” So I turn to my husband and say, “I used to be too.” He gave me ‘the look.’ You know the fun and sometimes the exasperating part Read More →

How to make them self study?

It is just so painful these days especially with my younger son. For my elder son, I started him on self study from a younger age. I think by 3rd or 4th grade he had begun not only doing his home work and assignments by himself but also got into the habit of studying for Read More →

Confusing title, huh? There was a time when I was in school/college when certain words and fake accents felt so cool. Seriously, parents were old fashioned and so was their lingo. What did they know about the latest trends and that inserting one word as an adjective just made us belong to a group of Read More →

My younger son is an inexhaustible source of funny anecdotes. The other day he was telling me about this incident that baffled him and left me roaring with laughter. Now this little man is the picture of perfect behavior outside of home – shy to a fault, he turns red if someone so much as Read More →

the man, the boy and the donkey

This is a lovely story that I am sure most of you must have heard when you were children. The other day my husband was narrating this one to my younger son, and it struck me how very sensible and relevant this story is for every stage of life. So here’s the tale just to refresh Read More →

karwa chauth

My first brush with Karwa Chauth was though my mother. I remember her dressing in gorgeous sarees, some from her wedding trousseau wearing lovely jewellery and keeping the fast with cheer and peace. She woke up early morning before dawn and ate whatever she had to eat. Since I never woke up that early, I had no idea how she Read More →

reading

It was an inky night. I pulled the heavy quilt around me even tighter. I was half-propped on the bed, eyes widening in terror as I wondered what would happen next. I looked at the big clock on the wall. It was 2 am and the end was nowhere near. Cursing myself because I did Read More →

power of touch

There is something so powerful and invigorating about touch. You can really connect with another human being just by holding their hands in your own or patting their arm. Isn’t there something magical about finger intertwining facilitating the flow of positive energy and love from one person to another. My earliest memory, a very fond Read More →

honesty without compassion

A classroom. There is an exam in progress. Teens are busy passing around chits with bits of information to cheat. They are also asking children seated around them for help. Some teachers see this behavior and turn a blind eye. There is one lone boy who does his work diligently writing away what he knows. Read More →

I was sitting and having tea with the husband and having a chat when his mobile phone rang. One minute into the conversation, he offered to the person at the other end in a honey-drenched voice, “Why don’t you talk to my wife? She has been handling this issue and knows much more than me.” Read More →

It was on 13th August, 2015 that my husband booked flight tickets for the four of us from Bangalore to Venice and back. While researching online, he came across BudgetAir.in’s offer of flight tickets that was cheaper than all other websites. He lapped it up and paid through his bank account. The amount was over Read More →

What a pain! Driving on non-existent roads to travel to a part of city that was still far from civilization. I remember driving here on Wednesdays while the weekend we did it together. Week after week for months on end, till the concrete, glass and pillars emerged into the shape of a home. Slowly, painstakingly. Read More →

dark girl

It don’t matter if you are black or white… Thus went the famous song by MJ. Here in India, it is more like It’s light brown; It’s dark brown. And, it matters a lot! India, which is a brown country, where skin tones range from the really dark to the lightest browns, you learn about Read More →

children

Parenting is a befuddling, bittersweet journey. When you start out, you are the sole providers, care givers and opinion makers in your children’s lives till they watch cartoons and have friends that is. Then they grow older, acquire a vocabulary and interests. You also get some sanity in your routine as you leave diaper changing Read More →

boys

This is a very random post about random happenings around our home  focussing on the boys. For one, their first unit tests of the new academic year are on. Today is the last day for the younger son. I must be more happy than him for sure. 😀 In case, you didn’t know, I sit Read More →

The delightful video above takes me on the journey of wishes – fulfilled and unfulfilled. As kids, I remember clutching that broken eye lash and wishing with all my might for whatever I wanted and then waiting with bated breath for it to come true. The wonder, the excitement, the joy of it all! And Read More →

5 ways parenting is like blogging

Today, I have the pleasure of hosting Shailaja Vishwanath on my blog. I first met her through her blogs. She shares great fiction at The Moving Quill and musings on life and parenting at the Diary of a Doting mom. She is warm, friendly, intelligent and affectionate, and I instantly hit it off with her. Read More →

marriage forgivers

In the times, when the institution of marriage is constantly being called outdated and redundant, those of us who still swear by the institution feel outnumbered. I am not the kind who projects a picture of perfect matrimony or even believes in it. Fifteen years of marriage teach you practicality all right. I have never Read More →

life

I am continuing the 3 Day Quote Challenge by posting my second favorite quote in the series. Yes, I know, I am not posting daily. But, I guess better late than never. The quote above is from the book P.S. I love you. I haven’t read the book but loved the movie. It was replete with Read More →

character

This is a quote that speaks to me and is in tune with my thinking. While all of us wish to put our best face/foot forward in public, does it sometimes make us do things against our grain? It is a fascinating subject to ponder over. I mean think if we spoke the absolute truth Read More →

dog

My Lab, Coco, is a dog with a slightly nervous temperament. He is a master in his own terrain read home but outside the house he is a clumsy wreck. A very peculiar trait that he has is that he runs out of the house and goes about exploring the neighborhood. Since our community is Read More →

This was a social get together, a function where families came together and interacted socially. Amidst loud ringing laughter and camaraderie, the men and women quickly segregated into their smaller groups. The children meanwhile found their own things to do, the younger ones began running all over the place while the older ones just hung Read More →

These days, sigh, I end up watching most Hindi movies with kids. The reason is that the husband has so many dislikes when it comes to Hindi movie heroes and heroines. I have a sneaking suspicion that this is an excuse that he’s invented so that he does not have to take us to Hindi Read More →

mother

I must have been 10 back then. I wanted to eat an apple but had no clue about using a knife. Nevertheless, I put it on my hand and thought of chopping it in one stroke like a karate chop. The apple fell down but the knife did quite a bit of damage to my Read More →

bangles

The other day, when the car was at a traffic light, I noticed a young couple, a newly-wed couple on bike. They would have looked like any other young couple on a bike except that the girl had her arms full of red bangles. They both were dressed in jeans and Tees. Normally, we don’t Read More →

While browsing through the movie channels, I came across Marley and me. I faintly remembered watching this movie a while back when it had first released. I faintly remembered the cast and the storyline. I knew this movie about a dog would instantly appeal to the kids. So, I recorded this one. And the entire Read More →

Rains bring to mind beautiful weather, petrichor, a blanket of pristine green and a feeling of comfort as nature renews itself. The showers not only satiate baked earth suffering from harsh Indian summers but considerably cools down temperature eventually cooling heated bodies and minds. Monsoon is also the time when mothers worry about viral infections, Read More →