Khudkokarbuland

They tiptoe into your lives with their tiny, helpless bodies and change your lives forever. Becoming a parent is among the most joyful experiences of one’s life. It is a miracle. It is as if you have created life itself when you see that perfectly shaped wiggling replica of yours placed in your arms. This tiny one has you wrapped around his little finger from the moment he is born. Your smallest and biggest decisions in life are now dictated by him. When you eat, sleep, work, travel, play and sometimes even talk is never the same again.

I used to wonder how does one bond with this new addition in your life? Does this bonding happen before the birth or from the moment they are placed in your arms? As I discovered, this love grows immensely every moment. Some days, it breaches all boundaries and spills out from your eyes and your heart. I know; I experience these moments so many times and for no specific reason. Sometimes, when their eyes crinkle when they look at you or the trusting manner in which they offer their hand to you and then scamper merrily along chattering incessantly. The way in which they shyly tell you their deepest angst or the moment when they hold your hand and hug you wanting to take your pain away. Ah, those moments in the lattice of memories are priceless.

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You want to protect them with all your strength. You hope that they will thrive and grow into precious adults, those who will make the world proud. You want them to fulfill all their aspirations, to reach out to whatever galaxies they want to conquer. You want to be their anchors, the catalyst that spurs them on. You want to be that friend, philosopher and guide always watching over them while they spread their wings and fly.

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But then, everything in life does not transpire as per your wishes. Nature may have other plans. When I was watching the advertisement above, I was reminded of a friend who is also a Doctor. The struggles I saw her face with her autistic child yet never a complaint escaped her mouth. She had a hard time sending her to school and looking after her with her own career. To tell you the truth, I felt a little ashamed of myself, as I cribbed about my toddler son to her. I remember he used to be a fussy eater back then. While here she was still feeding her much older autistic daughter and doing everything for her.

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How did she find the strength? I guess we have to lift our spirits and find that strength within us to take our children through their trials by fire. #KhudKoKarBuland campaign speaks of the same. Secure your life to enable yourself and your children to follow their dreams. Raise yourself to face just about any challenge that life may throw at you. Also, stop judging other parents. Who knows what challenge they are living daily?

Life will find you alternate paths if you have the courage and strength to carve them.

32 Thoughts on “#KhudKoKarBuland – Raise yourself

  1. I can completely relate to this one, Rachna. The parenting group that I moderate always takes the onus of not judging the other parent. How often have we cribbed about unfinished homework or uneaten plates of food, to discover that there is a mom who wishes that her child would be able to read even a sentence without difficulty or eat well if it were not for a disease. My heart truly breaks at stories like that one. Plus, in general, our society is largely intolerant of people with disability or special needs. We need more campaigns like these to raise awareness. Wonderful post!

    • I completely relate to your comment, Shailaja. I feel similarly. How harsh we are to other parents — pointing fingers, criticizing, judging. I won’t say that I don’t do that at all. But I will never do that in public. After becoming a parent, I find myself becoming more sensitive to these issues. You are absolutely right about the way we treat people with disabilities. It is atrocious. My heart goes out to them. I hope more brands and more ads address these issues. Thanks for reading and for your insightful comment that I await each time I post.

  2. It is good to see a mainstream brand working towards creating awareness about a rare disease that not only effects the individual but impacts the family also. And kudos to you for sharing the same.

  3. You have dissected this video and brought out the essence of it so well… So true that we should never judge any parent..Every parent out there is only doing what is best for his or her child and to the best of their capabilities…

    • Thanks, Naba. I have known many parents around me who have raised beautiful kids with disabilities and have done so very patiently and well. It somewhere makes us all as parents look up to them. The least we can do is to be sensitive to their situation. Thanks so much for connecting with the post.

  4. you have described some beautiful moments between children and their parents. It’s so touching. The last quote is so true.

  5. The way you have expressed the bonding you have with your children is so beautiful.. And as for me I end up judging my parents.. How to get over it ?

    • Thanks, simple girl. We all judged our parents including me. But I got true perspective about them only when I became a parent. I could see that maybe they made mistakes but they did do their best with the abilities and resources at their disposal. And that lets you been more gentle towards them.

  6. I am sure my parents thought the same way about me ..

  7. My heart goes out to all those parents and when I see the parents of the so called normal children in school during the PTA in schools…all I hear is complaints. I just hope the parents become ‘educated’ in the true sense of the word.

  8. Very well said, Rachna…. Loved the last quote. Courage is, indeed, the key. In order to have faith also, one needs courage.

  9. In today’s cut throat world of advertising, it is wonderful to see an ad from a mainstream company brave enough to create awareness about something most people don’t know about. The post touched a chord with me, Rachna.

    • Agreed, Sid. Not only was it nice to see a single father but also generating awareness about kids with special needs. I have friends with such kids and even relatives. It is humbling the way in which they approach parenting. It is my tribute to all these parents. You know how mean and cruel our society can be towards them.

  10. Wonderfully written. Everyone goes through some struggle or the other which we might not be aware of. Who are we to judge them?

    I really admire the strength of many people and that is when the quote struck a chord. If being strong is the only option, we might even end up surprising ourselves.

    • Thanks, Ashwini. Becoming a parent has opened me to these issues. I have friends with special children. Seeing them around their children inspires and humbles me. Yes, sometimes being strong is the only choice we have!

  11. As I was reading your experience, I was thinking of my mother. A child is a huge responsibility and we should be prepared for it. And this video reminds me of a blogger friend whom I asked, why wasn’t he posting and he told me, both his kids are autistic and he has no time. I didn’t know what to say after that. Some people just teach you so much without even saying a thing.

  12. Deepankar on January 14, 2015 at 3:33 am said:

    Dear Rachna,
    Wonderfully written n so touchingly u hv described the intiation of relationship called d patent…quotes couldnot hv been more timely n accurate…courage n values add to our character….

  13. True Rachna. As you said, we feel a little ashamed when we see parents coping with special children. I have always been awed by their strength and courage and their ability to “give” all the time. Beautiful post and video !

  14. Maniparna Sengupta Majumder on January 15, 2015 at 11:48 pm said:

    I really liked this ad…..and you’ve described very well the essence of it… 🙂

  15. It is a good campaign. It applies most to our children.
    Your take on the tag line is straight from the heart.

  16. Such a beautiful AD, Rachna. I have a friend who has a special needs kid. He and R are born on the same day. A part of me always felt guilty about she not deserving the same happiness as me. I always wondered what she must be going through inside when she sees other children. 🙁 Beautiful post, hugs to you.

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