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| Mum when she graduated. She was a Post graduate |
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| A Pic of all of us taken in Kashmir. I am the one on the right-most 🙂 |
On 11th April 2001 at 10.10 am, my mom passed away. It has been 10 years to the day now. Physically, she is not there around me, but she is alive in my memories. The pain of her loss has certainly reduced over the years, but not the magnitude. But today, I want to remember her with happiness. She was such a happy soul, her ever-smiling pretty face is what comes to my mind instantly when I think of her.Â
As a parent, I now realize how significant a parent’s role is in a child’s life. In many ways, we mirror our parents’ thoughts, behaviors, and emotions. And, I feel truly blessed to have parents who provided my siblings and I, a happy secure home. They shared a happy, loving, and devoted relationship. I don’t remember them yelling at us or hitting us or being nasty to each other. As we grew up, we were treated as adults and had our say in the house. I don’t remember them preaching to us to be like this or like that, or forcing their own wishes on us but through their own behavior, we ended up imbibing a lot of positivity and wonderful values from them. Today, if as a family, we share a great bond of love, friendship, and respect among us siblings and with our dad, my parents deserve the credit for it. Even today, my dad stands as a pillar of strength in our lives, always there for his kids as a strong guiding force!
As I look around and see many dysfunctional personalities, I am even more grateful to them for being such wonderful parents, and I try my best to be the same to my children. Thank you ma for your selfless love and care. You were simple, honest, so beautiful, devoted to your family, you cooked so well ( I miss your food), and your heart and soul lived in your family. I am sure dad misses you a lot as do the three of us. You live on within us and in our hearts and memories. I am sure that you are there to provide me comfort whenever I think of you and reach out for you.
Firstly I am sory for the loss of your mother I can not imagine my life without my own. Sounds like you had a wonderful loving caring kind family.This is important in our growth. I am sure with this upbringing you yourself are a superb parent.
made me emotional Rachna…. reminded me of my Dad….its true we realize so many things when we ourself become Parents.
Bets Wishes,
irfan.
Thanks for sharing this Rachna … Mums are the best, aren’t they? :o)
All the best to you and your family!
Speechless.
Now that I am far away from my parents, I miss them so much and think of all the things which I should have done for them.
But then they tell me that the fact that I am their daughter, is happiness enough for them 🙂
Roots whether for a tree or for ourselves are the most important part, and the fact that u r such a wonderful person just proves how wonderful your parents are
That was indeed very lovely tribute! It would be very tough to maintain normalcy in an abnormal world! Thats role of the family I believe
Lovely tribute Rachna – your mother would have been very proud of you.
@Emmy Thank you for your warm words. Yes, a loving, grounded family is an important foundation for a healthy life. I sure hope that my sons will someday look back fondly and have happy memories of their own childhood.
@Irfan Thank you. Sometimes, in the hustle bustle of life, we don’t always appreciate the people who are closest to us. And, becoming parents gives us an amazing insight and understanding about our parents’ role.
@Josefine Thanks so much, dear. Oh yes, mums are absolutely the best!
@bbsearchingself Even, those of us who are living in India actually get to meet them once or twice a year. Parents dote on their kids, and it is apparent that yours do too :).
Thank you for your wonderful words. Very touching and sweet!
@Jon Thanks a lot for your warm words. Indeed, that is the role of the family in my opinion as well.
@Jane Thank you, Jane. I hope so too.
God bless you.
sorry to hear about your mum, I know how difficult it is to lose a parent.
WE are so carefree under them, when my dad passed away a few years back it was such a shock ..
Parents are the best.. dont know what else to say .. Take care
Bikram’s
HiRachna,
I can understand your loss, a mother is somebody who keeps the family together. Even I lost my mom when she was just 65, that around 20 years ago, even now I still feel that she there in our house in Madras, but when I go there , I don’t feel at home, although my alomost 90 year old father and my brother and his family are there , still we all feel she should be there. The ruanak of the family is somehow gone. People , that is my father and brother and others are all there and are very loving, but mom is not there, and so that home doesn’t feel like a home to me.
I am lucky for she came to stay with me in Bangalore for 10 days just before her death , which happened suddenly 10 days after she left my place. I feel so honored that she chose to visit me.
Always during Mother’s day, I always remember her and try to write something about her.
I can’t say we were a family without fights and difference of opinion, but still we loved each other despite everything.
Nice post , alwys nice to remember mothers. Thank you for sharing.
May her soul always rest in piece. Amen… !
@bikram Thank you. It is real hard losing a parent. I empathize with you for your dad’s loss.
@rama You’ve said what my entire family feels all the time. It is just not the same in the house without mom. There was something exceptional in her warmth and her ability to make each one of us so special. Dad, though he tries very hard, admits that he cannot fill that void. My mom was just 52. She dies of liver complications due to adverse effect of some medication she was taking. You can imagine what a shock it was for us to lose her so suddenly.
Yes, indeed, the raunak is gone forever. Mothers are so special. I missed sharing my pregnancies, and the births of my sons. I know she would have been such a doting grandma to them. I miss her much more now that I am a mother. And, I was just married for 4 months when I lost her. Luckily, I could meet her before she passed away. I flew down from the US when called and she went into coma the same day that I arrived. She was hanging on to life just to meet me. Such are mothers!
@RAchit Thank you for your kind words.
Indeed she is beautiful Rachna!
It is such a tragedy losing a parent. My Dad passed away nearly 8 years ago and sometimes the pain is so raw.
As you have said, they are constantly inspiring our actions – either in person or not.
Stay blessed with her memories.
May her soul rest in peace.
it is very normal for children to take the parents for granted.Nothing unusual about this
AFter reading the comments I couldnt leave without acommenting again.
So true that a mother is the raunak of the family, she keeps the family together also she is the PR of the family, keeps the link b/w the family and the outside world too. (If we had grousy mothers, would we be able to bring our friends home-just an example)
After reading ur post yday, I was thinking that you must have missed her terrible during ur pregnancies, bcoz my pregnancy was such a challenge that it was only bcoz of my mom that I carried full term. It was she who kept my morale high.
@NRIGirl thank you! Indeed, anyone who has lost a parent would know how terrible the loss is and how it stays with us for life. I wish I could have told her more often what she meant for me. But then, being a mother she would have known.
@BKChowla I think more than taking parents for granted, we take their presence in our lives for granted. And, then suddenly, when they are gone one day, they leave us with a void which can never be filled.
@bbsearchingself So true! So was my mom, exuberant, social, friendly, always welcoming our friends home. After my sister was married and living in the same city, she would be sending my brother or I whenever she made something at home that she thought my sister or jijaji would enjoy :). She used to dote on my niece who used to be all the time at our place.
Yes, I did miss her terribly all those days when i wanted to ask her things. Even now, sometimes I remember how she used to cook something but don’t know the recipe but feel helpless that I cannot ask her. Even when I want to share some childhood memories with my children, I struggle because dad would not know and mom is not there to tell. These are small incidents when I really miss her. But, I dream of her quite often, and when in distress I do feel her presence around me. It’s strange but her support is there for me.
Very emotional.A house is lonely without the woman they say …So I can imagine the loss for your father mainly..and also you kids.I cannot even imagine my parent’s house without my mom.She is the soul with lots of chirping and liveliness.I am not always soft to her ,I know I keep hurting her sometimes ..but I feel very sad later..
A fitting tribute.
There is nothing more painful than the loss of a loved one.Treasure the wonderful memories you have.
@Raji Very correctly said. House is indeed lonely without parents. Some disagreements are common within families, but parents are precious and must be appreciated.
@dr. anthony thank you for your kind words.
May her soul always rest in piece
Such a wonderful post Rachna. I don’t even know what else to say.
@Thank you Bhupesh. How have you been?
@Agnes Thanks so much!